Over the past few weeks I’ve had a few personal changes which have led to me feeling extremely stressed and anxious. These included: leaving my flat in London and moving temporarily to my parents’ in the countryside, the rekindling of a (London based) romance which rolled immediately into a long-distance jumbled space, trying to maintain the success of a Podcast and juggling multiple work commitments during a Global restructure which has stretched and stretched and stretched.
I knew I needed to move beyond the stress in order to not mess things up, but knowing that only made me feel stressed about being stressed!
It’s really challenging when you get into this space to know how to lift yourself out. There’s a panic to it, only exaggerated by the fact we’re currently unable to see friends, unwind and have fun. While trying to work out how I was going to navigate this, I found myself scrolling through Youtube – something I figured unlikely to help, but maintained it with optimism. Somewhere amongst this clicking and searching and scrolling, I had a few breakthroughs in certain thought patterns. Breakthroughs which had failed to come from reading or manifesting, as I had been desperately trying to do, and came instead from an hour on YouTube and the adoption of some different ideas.
In case you’re somewhere in amongst the weeds, here is my mind journey, and the links to navigate your way through.
Video Number 1: “Go with your gut feeling” – A Ted Talk by Magnus Walker
Key take-away – the essence of success is being free to do the things you want to do
Video Number 2: “How to stop your thoughts from controlling your life” – A Ted Talk by Albert Hobohm
Key take-away – Don’t believe every thought you have
Video Number 3: “How to stop feeling anxious about anxiety” – A Ted Talk by Tim Box
*In this video, Tim Box does a brilliant job of unpacking the anxiety around anxiety.
Key take-away – Anxiety is there to let us know something matters to us. It isn’t the enemy, it’s just about hearing and acknowledging it and then deciding “it’s OK” if you don’t do everything perfectly.
To close: “Getting stuck in the negative (and how to get unstuck)” – A Ted Talk by Alison Ledgerwood
Key takeaway – our minds naturally hang on to the negative, so any negativity we’re feeling is likely to be an inaccurate representation of the truth of the situation.
While I’ve usually skirted stimulating and click-baity environments like YouTube when looking to overcome mental challenges, in this instance they provided the exact understanding I needed of my emotions.
Seeing other people succeed, by relaxing a little, really was a magic formula to helping my level of anxiousness slip away.