For years, successful people have been harbouring the benefits of alone time. The rise in popularity of timed meditation is in large to get these benefits which come from a calm, still mind. Time to be in solitude.
Wherever we live, work and play, the single most common complaint of ambitious people is:“I don’t have enough time”. In an attempt to maintain relationships alongside a career, we can end up promising all our time to others and trying to find gaps here and there to squeeze in our side-hustles or hobbies.
With these gaps filled, one thing generally disregarded is alone time. By which I mean time to be in solitude, away from the influence of others. Whilst the benefits of this are a little less tangible than time spent ‘doing’, by not prioritising it you may be limiting yourself. This is because, whilst your actions are what will define you, these are determined by your thoughts, which is where the power of solitude comes in.
“Silent thought, is, after all, the mightiest agent in human affairs” – William Ellery Channing
We often associate the need to be alone as a characteristic of introverted people, or ‘loners’. However, securing time alone to think, allows you to hear your own voice and make up your own mind. Something it’s almost impossible to do when surrounded by the noise and opinions of everyone else. Solitude can help develop strength of character and artistic sense. It allows individuals to break free from the matrix we live in, and through this process, become awakened and more able to think of new ideas and avenues.
This is a lesson understood by many of the world’s greatest achievers, both past and present. Here are some of the different ways people have been empowered by time spent in solitude:
Bill Gates – “If you’re clever you can learn to get the benefits of being an introvert, which might be, say, being willing to go off for a few days and think about a tough problem, read everything you can, push yourself very hard to think out on the edge of that area.”
Audrey Hepburn – “Living is like tearing through a museum. Not until later do you really start absorbing what you saw, thinking about it, looking it up in a book, and remembering – because you can’t take it in all at once.”
“The monotony and solitude of a quiet life stimulates the creative mind” – Albert Einstein
Ariana Huffington – “Solitude is a state of being alone without being lonely, and can lead to a greater sense of self-awareness.”
Guy Kawaski – “You may find this hard to believe, but I am an introvert. I have a “role” to play, but I fundamentally am a loner.”
Elon Musk (as described in his biography by Ashlee Vance) – “He goes into his brain, and then you just see he is in another world…You could do jumping jacks beside Musk or yell at him, and he would not even notice”.
J.K.Rowling (on a critical moment in the creation of ‘Harry Potter’)– “To my immense frustration, I didn’t have a pen that worked, and I was too shy to ask anybody if I could borrow one… I did not have a functioning pen with me, but I do think that this was probably a good thing. I simply sat and thought, for four (delayed train) hours, while all the details bubbled up in my brain.”
Eleanor Rooservelt – “Friendship with oneself is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.”
Charles Bukowski – “People empty me. I have to get away to refill.”
Stephen Hawking – “Quiet people have the loudest minds.”
“A little while alone in your room will prove more valuable than anything else that could ever be given you.” – Rumi
As described by his sister, Syd Barrett (Pink Floyd) – “He found his own mind so absorbing that he didn’t want to be distracted.”
Jane Fonda – “I have a friend who says she has become a nerd cause she doesn’t go out or hang anymore with her buds. I told her I understood cause I was part nerd too and I realized that my blog gives the impression that I am always surrounded by excitement and people. But the fact is that I spend much time alone and cherish that. I don’t write about that cause what’s to say. “I am alone, thinking, reading, meditating…” Isn’t so interesting so my blog gives a false impression of my life. I identify with the bear who hibernates much of the time–in fact, has her cubs alone while she sleeps–but then needs to be social, playful. That’s me. I am alone a lot. I read a lot. I meditate. I love solitude. It’s different than loneliness. I am not always surrounded by excitement.”
Henry David Thoreau – “I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude.”